Friday, December 11, 2015

To be welcoming. To be unafraid. To be a great leader.

For the first time in 29 years, a woman has been chosen as Time Magazine's "Person of the Year." This leaves most of us wondering, why such a long wait?
TIME's Radhika Jones answers: "As I wrote a few years ago, the label of Person of the Year tends to favor people with institutional power. The choice reflects TIME’s view of who affected the news and our lives, for good or for ill. Since 1986 there’ve been four U.S. Presidents in the mix—three of them two-termers, all of them men. Plus a handful of leaders of the Soviet Union (and Russia), also all men. The Pope keeps being a man. And it’s a lot easier to make news from an address like the White House, the Kremlin or the Vatican."
In a world where great leadership is generally associated with masculine "words" such as strong, powerful, assertive, competitive, and direct, it is great to see that a woman can rise to meet all of these expectations. The notion of what makes a great leader is finally changing, and as a society, we are embracing the value of more feminine traits in the role of leadership- words such as compassion and kindness, inevitably come to mind when reading Time Magazine's award to Merkel rationale:
"To be welcoming. To be unafraid. To believe that great civilizations build bridges, not walls, and that wars are won both on and off the battlefield. By viewing the refugees as victims to be rescued rather than invaders to be repelled, the woman raised behind the Iron Curtain gambled on freedom. The pastor’s daughter wielded mercy like a weapon. You can agree with her or not, but she is not taking the easy road. Leaders are tested only when people don’t want to follow. For asking more of her country than most politicians would dare, for standing firm against tyranny as well as expedience and for providing steadfast moral leadership in a world where it is in short supply, Angela Merkel is TIME’s Person of the Year."
Hats off to Merkel. And to everyone who understands the value of the feminine perspective in leadership.


Wednesday, December 9, 2015

Ladies and Raises: Why would anyone give you what you are not asking for?

You've been in your role for the better part of a decade and you've NEVER asked for a raise. You've also never received anything but an annual increase that barely keeps you in line with the cost of living. From your perspective (and likely that of outsiders as well...), you are clearly overdue for a review. Equally qualified peers are leap-frogging over you in terms of career advancement, and you really have no clue why or how it's happening. 
While employers generally do their best to stay atop of the change in your "compensable factors," I can tell you with certainty, that if you don't stay on top of your career advancement, no one will. After all, why would anyone give you what you are not asking for?
You've always been great at advocating for others-
Family: Kids need to make it to soccer practice? Dinner needs to be cooked? Grocery run? Your family and friends know they can always count on you. You don't think twice about having to call your office and tell them you are staying home with a sick child.
Work: Your a reliable team contributor and the high quality of your work speaks for itself. Need to pull late nights at the office? Work on weekends to make the deadline? You can be counted on to deliver.
Sadly, when it comes to advocating for ourselves and our salaries, we tend to fall short. We work hard and remain loyal, hoping that one day we will get the recognition we deserve... but we don't realize that the system is not designed to be as giving as we are.
I don't believe that there is a one-method-fit-all model to get you what you are not asking for- all industries are different, and all employers have a different culture, and everyone's relationship with their company is different. What I do know, is that if you don't know what you are worth, and you don't know how to ask for it, you are not going to get it.
Because not everyone can afford my services, I'm compiling a free road map to help women:
a) figure out what they are worth (quantitatively)
b) how to develop a unique strategy to negotiate for it
If there are any questions or anecdotes that you think are worth including, email me:
olivia@salarycoaching.com